| Do you ever find that when a friend asks for your | | | | how you communicated rather than whowas in the |
| opinion on aproblem it is a lot easier for you to see a | | | | right. |
| solution than it isfor your friend? | | | | 3 Ask yourself: |
| And do you also find that sometimes you feel | | | | -- how could you have handled the situation better? |
| completely stuckwhen it comes to your own | | | | -- what could you have done differently? |
| problems? | | | | -- what is the solution to the problem? |
| The same applies to disputes, relationship issues | | | | Your goal is to be emotionally detached yet concerned |
| anddisagreements. | | | | withfinding the best solution in the same way you help |
| When you are part of the problem it can be very | | | | a friend witha problem. |
| difficult to seea solution. What you need at times like | | | | 4 Imagine a trusted friend is in the helicopter observing: |
| this is a helicopter! | | | | -- what advice would your friend give you? |
| Helicopter Talk Technique: | | | | -- what does your friend notice that you missed? |
| 1 Imagine you are in a helicopter flying high above the | | | | Your own private helicopter can be used to identify |
| town youlive in. Now travel to where you last had a | | | | patterns ofcommunication you have that land you in |
| dispute with a familymember, friend or work mate. | | | | hot water as well as newways of dealing with |
| 2 From the safety and distance of the helicopter | | | | problems. |
| above rerun thelast conversation when the trouble | | | | Have fun in the sky! |
| flared up. Watch the sceneunfold and pay attention to | | | | |