| Do you ever find that when a friend asks for | | | | |
| your opinion on aproblem it is a lot easier | | | | 3 Ask yourself: |
| for you to see a solution than it isfor your | | | | |
| friend? | | | | -- how could you have handled the situation |
| | | | better? |
| And do you also find that sometimes you feel | | | | |
| completely stuckwhen it comes to your own | | | | -- what could you have done differently? |
| problems? | | | | |
| | | | -- what is the solution to the problem? |
| The same applies to disputes, relationship | | | | |
| issues anddisagreements. | | | | Your goal is to be emotionally detached yet |
| | | | concerned withfinding the best solution in |
| When you are part of the problem it can be | | | | the same way you help a friend witha problem. |
| very difficult to seea solution. What you | | | | |
| need at times like this is a helicopter! | | | | 4 Imagine a trusted friend is in the |
| | | | helicopter observing: |
| Helicopter Talk Technique: | | | | |
| | | | -- what advice would your friend give you? |
| 1 Imagine you are in a helicopter flying high | | | | |
| above the town youlive in. Now travel to | | | | -- what does your friend notice that you |
| where you last had a dispute with a | | | | missed? |
| familymember, friend or work mate. | | | | |
| | | | Your own private helicopter can be used to |
| 2 From the safety and distance of the | | | | identify patterns ofcommunication you have |
| helicopter above rerun thelast conversation | | | | that land you in hot water as well as newways |
| when the trouble flared up. Watch the | | | | of dealing with problems. |
| sceneunfold and pay attention to how you | | | | |
| communicated rather than whowas in the right. | | | | Have fun in the sky! |